Identity Maturity

When I’m my best self

I’ve been doing some soul searching lately. Honestly, I have felt a bit off for quite some time now. I can’t really put my finger on when this change happened, but I can clearly look back to a time in my life where I feel like I was a much better version of myself.

I don’t want to be too negative, there have been so many things that have happened in my life over the last 2 years that have stretched me beyond anything I thought I was capable of being. I am now not only a husband, but also a father. I’ve taken on more responsibility in my job. I am a homeowner. So many new things have happened the last couple of years.

For some reason though, I just feel disconnected.

I’m really trying to think through why that is and what I’m missing. I know that I’m growing. I know that there are areas in life that I am much better today than I was 2 years ago. That being said, I feel like there are some things that were present in my life then that aren’t there now.

I’m not reading or writing like I use to.

I miss the days that I read and really dug into theological topics. This is how I wrestled with God. This is how I found out who He is and who I am because of that.

I need to remember this is a process. Sometimes I get discouraged because I want results. I have become completion oriented in my way of thinking. When I have a free evening, I tend to think of things I can start and finish that night.

I’m not really sure what this looks like. I don’t even want to put some type of schedule or routine to it. I just want it to be a priority, like it was before.

Identity Maturity

Living to your full potential

The 2015 NBA Finals just finished up last week, and I caught myself seeing more than just some guys playing a game with a ball on the tv. This year, I noticed a select few individuals that really stood head and shoulders above the rest.

There is a popular video going around now that keys in on Steph Curry’s work ethic, and the fact that his success is not an accident. See, I use to think that there were just people who were destined to be great. A few years ago, I would have looked at Steph and said, ‘It’s crazy to see people who are doing what they were designed to do.’ Now, to a degree, there is truth in that. But at the end of the day, Steph wasn’t designed to be a basketball player. If he wanted too, he could of done a handful of other things with his life.

He was, however, called to follow Christ, and called to lead his family with love and humility. That is something he could have done with any career choice.

When he decided to pursue the game of basketball, he did it with everything he had. He didn’t go at it half-hearted. He trained for hours and hours to perfect a skill that would allow him to be one of the best players in the NBA.

There is something inspiring about seeing someone be the best at whatever it is they may be doing.

I wonder what it would look like if more people gave that kind of devotion to their passion. It doesn’t have to be basketball. What can I do as a web developer to push myself to be one of the best? Why am I not doing that?

Life is too short to just float by and be average. I want to be someone that people look up to and say, ‘that’s a guy thats giving it everything he has.’ More importantly, when they look at me, I want them to see me loving and leading my family, and being loved and lead by Christ.

Freedom Identity Work

Imposter Syndrome

As a web developer, my greatest struggle is believing in my knowledge and worth.

No matter how much my skill level may increase, it seems as though it’s never good enough. There is always someone out there that knows more than I do, or can do the things I do much better.

I have only really been in this field for about 3 years professionally, so in most cases, I’m a young gun. It seems everywhere I look I see guys that have been doing this 3 and 4 times as long as I have. There are days when I feel like I just don’t know enough and am not a real asset to my team and community.

I have been blessed with an amazing team. They have all been in this industry much longer than I have and have tons more experience. The best thing about them though, is their willingness and desire to help me grow my skill set and learn as much as I can from them.

I will admit, there are days when it’s overwhelming. It seems as though the world of development just keeps growing and growing. It seems almost impossible to keep up. I realized the other day that I’m not the only one who feels like this. I was talking with one of my coworkers the other day who has been working in the development world for over 10 years. He started talking about feeling like he didn’t know enough and that there were so many people out there that knew so much more than him.

I wonder how I will feel in 7 years…

I think there are positives and negatives to this part of our industry. I think allowing this feeling to fuel you into working hard and pushing yourself to be the best developer you can be is great! We just need to be careful about allowing this feeling to settle in thoughts of inadequacy.

Let’s make sure we are pushing each other to be better. And let’s not forget the way it felt to be the new kid on the block.



I just started the Storyline workbook and am really excited.

Storyline is all about finding your subplot in God’s story. I’m excited to see what God has to say about what my part to play is.

I have setup a ‘My Subplot‘ page, and will be entering details into it as I get them.