Lately my wife and I have been spending a lot of time talking about our will. I’m not talking about the kind of will where you list who all your stuff is gonna go to, I’m talking about the mind/will/emotions kinda will. Specifically we have been talking about the power that lies in our will.
We are powerfully people. We have a free will, so we can choose to do or not do whatever we please. Sometimes we forfeit that power though. I’ve been pretty good at forfeiting the power of my will into the hands of others for a big chunk of my life. I am a pretty ‘go with the flow’ kinda go, so there are times were I may not do some of the things I really want to do.
It’s a crippling thing to hand your power to someone else. It makes you feel weak and oftentimes unsatisfied. Because of this, I have really been working on reestablishing my position as head of my will. The next part is what gets tricky for me though. How do I take control of something and do the things I want to do, and probably say no to people more than I have been, without being a jerk?
Please hear my heart in this. I’m not at all saying, ‘I’m gonna take care of me and what I want, and everyone else can figure their own stuff out.’ My heart is to bless people and love people. But I have to be cautious of walking the line of giving them a place in my life that is not theirs to rule.
The problem that I have seen in my own life is that when I give up my spot as head of my will to someone else, it effects all others areas of my life. You see, if I give you control of my will, I will have a hard time choosing to do things when you aren’t around to make decisions for me. It’s like when someone wears a back brace for too long. The back muscles become dependent on the brace for support, so over time they become weak from inactivity. As soon as the back brace is removed, the back has no stability or ability to function the way that it was designed to.
There are a lot of things I want to do now and in the future. I’m taking back the driver seat of my will and choosing to do those things.